The trip to my daughter’s is off. Mom’s a mess. Got to rethink her meds.
Meanwhile, Jim Culleny of No Utopia has been emailing a poem a day, and I am delighted with his selections, including this one of his:

There’s a tag team of “eight random things about me” going on, and Camilo at Mercurial tagged me. These are the rules:
— Each player starts with 8 random facts/habits about themselves.
— People who are tagged need to write their own blog about their 8 things and post these rules.
— At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.
— Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them they’re tagged, and to read your blog.
With both my spirit as well as my flesh feeling pretty weak at this point, I’m not going to tag anyone. But if you’re reading this blog and would like to contribute eight random things about yourself, please leave a comment here or at Camilo’s.
Neverthess, here are eight random things about me:
1. I didn’t learn to drive a car until I was in college, and my driving teacher was my roommate, who was taking the course on how to teach driver ed.
2. my parents bought me my first car. And my second one too.
3. I bought my daughter her first car.
4. I used to have a recurring nightmare about parking my car and then never again finding it.
5. I am as untidy with the inside of my car as I am with my living space.
6. my car continues to go stone dead at variable intervals, and my brother installed some gadget that shuts the battery down with enough juice left to start up once I press a secret button. No mechanic has yet to figure out why it goes dead.
7. I think my next car will be a Rav4.
8. my car has always been both a conscious and unconscious symbol of my access to freedom.
I am getting in my car on Saturday and going to visit my daugher and family for two nights, even though my mom is not doing well at all. My battery needs recharging badly!

For her, the past only has two dimensions; there is no depth of remembrance. The only television that has any meaning for her are the old black and white movies — Bing Crosby, Ginger Rogers, Merle Oberon, David Niven… We listen to the “Easy Listening” channel on cable television. She likes to watch the changing mountain and meadow scenes that they show as the music goes on and on. Two dimensions are so much easier to understand than the complexities of the three dimensional world. Too many ways to look at the same thing. She says “I don’t understand,” a lot.
The Easy LIstening channel plays a lot of the old songs that trigger my own black and white memories: lying in bed with asthma playing with my Deanna Durbin paper dolls while the radio plays “It’s a good day for singing a song…”. I design, draw, and color and cut out all kinds of additional outfits for Deanna and the radio plays “the bells are ringing for me and my gal.” In my box of “cut-outs” (which is what we called those “paper dolls,” )I had some other favorites: Veronica Lake, Betty Grable, along with clothes I created for them as well.
The arrival of those three-dimensional Barbie dolls meant the end of the glamorous paper replicas of real live pin-up girls. It also meant the end of little girls being able to create their own clothing designs for those two-dimensional cut-outs to wear. You had to buy clothes for Barbie and her friends. Unless, of course, your mother could sew or knit. Which I could, so my daughter’s Barbie had quite a wardrobe. It just was so much more complicated, having that thrid dimension to deal with.

“When the red, red robin comes bob bob bobbin along, along. There’s be no more sobbin….”
My memories are triggered more and more by smells. I planted lilies of the valley, which have come up in scented white splendor. I hold the belled sprig under my nose and suddenly I am 11 years old and wearing that pale green long taffeta dress and carrying a bouquet of lilies of the valley in the May Day procession: “Oh Mary, we crown thee with blossoms today….”
Simple melodies. Simple lyrics. Simple times. Whole lives ahead of us.
I often make up simple songs for my mother — improvise on the spot idiotic arias that I sing in in a falsetto voice because it makes her smile. “Get up, get up. It’s time to eat. Move your butt and land on your feet. The coffee’s ready; it’s way past dawn. Get up, get up before the day’s gone.” I dance her to the breakfast table.
“You’re my mother, she says.”

Forget your troubles c’mon get happy,
you better chase all your cares away.
Shout hallejulah c’mon get happy
get ready for the judgement day.
the sun is shinin c’mon get happy,
the lord is waitin to take your hand.
shout hallejulah c’mon get happy,
we’re going to the promise land
We’re headin across the river to
wash your sins away in the tide.
it’s all so peaceful on the other side.
Forget your troubles c’mon get happy,
you better chase all your cares away.
shout hallejulah c’mon get happy,
get ready for the judgement day.
Forget your troubles c’mon get happy
chase ya cares away.
hallelu get happy,
before the judgement day.
The sun is shinin c’mon get happy,
the lord is waitin to take your hand.
shout hallejulah c’mon get happy,
we’re gunna be goin to the promise land.
were headin cross the river,
wash you’re sins away in the tide.
it’s quiet and peaceful on the other side.
forget your troubles get happy,
your cares fly away.
shout hallejulah get happy get ready for your judgement day.
c’mon get happy,
chase your cares away.
shout hallejulah cmon get happy,
get ready for the judgment day
The sun is shining c’mon get happy,
lord is waiting to take your hand.
hallejulah c’mon get happy,
we’re going to the promise land.
headin ‘cross the river,
throw your sins away in the tide.
it’s all so peaceful on the other side-
shout hallelujah c’mon get happy,
ya better chase all your cares away.
shout hallejulah c’mon get happy,
get ready-get ready-get ready,
for the judgment day.

“Where am I? When can I go home?
For more than an hour this morning, that was all she could say. And all I could do was reassure her that she IS home, that we all live together and this is our home now. “Look how pretty it is outside. There’s the red bird you like so much. Look, he’s here with his wife.” As she sits at the kitchen table and looks out the window at the three bird feeders, she is always delighted by the cardinal and his painted lady.
Everything hurts, she says. Her head, her legs, her neck, her shoulders, her back, her feet. I give her the pill she takes for nerve pain and a Tylenol as well.
She sits next to me on the couch, cries, mutters “I’m so afraid.” When I ask her why she’s afraid she says, “I don’t know.”
“Where are you going?” she keeps asking at least once an hour every day. Even if I’m planning to go somewhere — to the dentist or grocery shopping or to pick up a prescription — I tell her that I’m not going anywhere.
In her mind I’m often a friend that she had when, before the Depression hit, her mother took her and her four siblings to live on the family farm in Poland. Those are the times she remembers most, now. She keeps checking to see if the painting of the thatched-roof cottage in which they lived is still hanging on the wall. “That’s my grandfather’s house,” she says. I ask her if she remembers who did the painting. She doesn’t.
She wants to walk, gets tired of just sitting. But she’s not very steady on her feet, so I put on some “easy listening” music and put my arms around her and she follows as I lead small steps in time with the music. She holds me tight, and I can feel her relax into me. I lead her into her bedroom, help her climb into bed to take a nap.
My sibling’s way of keeping her company is to sit her down in front of the television while he taps on his laptop. She doesn’t like to watch television. She doesn’t get the plots or the jokes or the point.
“I want someone to talk to,” she says. “Talk to me, Ma, I say.” Tell me about when you were a little girl in Tuszyma.”

I’m stuck.
I don’t want to stay where I am and I can’t bring myself to leave. And so the brain idles in neutral, consuming energy but going nowhere.
Outside, such startling energy. Wind, rain, lightening. As yet unearthed life, ripening steadily under it all. Where there’s hope, there’s life.
No hope here. No more words, either.

There’s a new Americans United for Change TV ad out, which is scheduled to air on national cable networks now that President Bush has vetoed the Iraq withdrawal bill: “Mr. President, you can veto a bill. But you can’t veto the truth.”
You can go here to watch it on YouTube.

Below is a reprise of my post on May 1, 2003.

So, here it is, four years later and another May Day, and Dumbya is still doing his best to undo whatever strengths this country has left.

Haloscan let me know that you left a comment on an old post (which I can’t locate), asking me to delete all of your previous comments. You didn’t leave an email address or a name. In your comment, you said that when you Google your name, your old comments come up, and you’d like me to delete them. Without knowing how to contact you for more specifics, and without knowing your name so that I can Google it, I can’t do what you request.
On the other hand, if you click on the first words of my sidebar and scroll all the way down to what is my “about” info, you will find my email address. Email me and give me your name so that I can Google it and find your comments as well. Then, I will be happy to delete them.
Sorry, ol’ “girl.”

So begins the first chapter in legendary leader Lee Iococca’s just-published book Where Have All the Leaders Gone?
A good deal of the chapter is devoted to his “Nine Cs of Leadership.” My four and a half year old grandson has more of those Characteristics than any of our government’s current leaders.

The end of the chapter is Iococca’s calling for action He says:

Even if you don’t read the whole book, be sure to read this chapter.