“so it goes”

Kurt Vonnegut has gone.
And, in Vonnegut’s honor, b!X posted the best quote of all from God Bless You, Mr. Rosewater:

Hello, babies. Welcome to Earth. It’s hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It’s round and wet and crowded. At the outside, babies, you’ve got about a hundred years here. There’s only one rule that I know of, babies — ‘God damn it, you’ve got to be kind.

And speaking of having to be kind, not everyone is being unkind to unkind Imus. As I indicated in my previous post, there’s a lot more sexism and racism going on around us every day, both in words and deeds.
Personally, I have conflicting opinions about the Imus thing. I don’t think he should have been fired. Rather, he should have been put on probation so that he could figure out how to put his wit to work without using words that hurt. Maybe he would have served as a good example of how you don’t have to be cruel to be a successful satirist.

censorship vs civility

Imus is unplugged by MSNBC. I purposely have never listed to Imus. Or Howard Stern, for that matter. But the truth is, there is worse miscogeny out there in rap music and MTV and in any number of other venues that are based in a destructive culture.
Some bloggers are calling for “rules of conduct” for those who communicate publicy over the Internet. Since its inception, the Internet has been rife with wordy evidences of the worst of human nature. It also carries an awful lot of good stuff along its mind-boggling byways.
While it’s coincidental that these two media-shaking occurrences happened at the same time, it shouldn’t surprise anyone. There always have been those in the communications media, mainstream and otherwise, who have worked very hard to skirt both censorship and civility.
The challenge has always been to find that free speech place in the middle — to avoid the suppression that is censorship while also avoiding the repression that shadows civility.
That line, I believe, will always be a fine one.

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ADDENDUM: As I post this, I begin watching Countdown, during which NBC President Steve Capus explained why they fired Imus. One point comes out that makes Imus’ “abominable” comments so bad. It’s one thing to satirize, criticize — even demonize — adults who are public and powerful figures involved in politics and other activities with which we disagree. It’s another to do those things to unknown young women struggling to get an education and win a basketball game.

“who died?”

It wasn’t funny. And yet it was. It reminded us of the old “Who’s on first?” bit that Abbot and Costello make famous.
She got a phone call from someone she knew back in her home town. It was Janey, calling to see how my mom was doing and to let us know that her husband had died. Their non-sequitur conversation ended with mom handing the phone back to my brother, who explained that my mom was feeling a little disoriented.
And then it began, with mom:

Who died?

Janey’s husband.

Who’s Janey?

You remember, Mom, She’s Uncle John’s sister.

Uncle John?

Yes, remember he was married to your sister Susie, and when she died, he married Emma?

Susie died?

Yes, mom, a long time ago. Remember her husband John?

Did he die?

Yes, he died a couple of years ago.

Who died?

Janey’s husband.

Who’s Janey?

And that went on until my brother and I were laughing so hard that even my mother started giggling.
And so seem to more frequently go the conversations on this mountain — absurd comedy sketches that make you laugh so that you don’t cry.

where the hell is spring

That’s what my piles of seeded pots are asking as they begin to sprout under my hopeful tending.

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I also have a little greenhouse set up next to that mass of pots. With all of the money I spent on seed starter mix, sphagnum moss, grow lights,seed starter pots, seeds, etc. etc., it would have been cheaper to wait and buy decent sized plants from the greenhouse down the road.
I seem always compelled to have new projects starting. That’s why my living space looks like it does right now, with various yarns and needles and fabrics and clothes-in-need-of-alteration scattered all over. And then, of course, there are those seedy things.
I’ve never been this bad, but I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I never have a sustained amount of time to really immerse myself in any one thing. I get these ideas that I begin to implement and then there’s my mom needing me.
These days, she has bouts of incoherence; bouts of ice cold hands, nose and feet; bouts of stubborness, of paranoia, of total despair. “I’m dying, I’m dying,” she pants. And then she has a bout of seeming just fine.
And I have bouts of despair as well. At least I’m getting out to exercise (even though, I have been told, Curves donates money to the Repubilican Party). The local Curves for Women place is close and do-able for me. OK. So, I’m compromising my integrity — or at least that what some might say. As far as I’m concerned, I’m just struggling to keep my sanity and my health.
And so I start projects. Like planting more seeds for more growing things than I will ever be able to replant outside. I’ve warned my daughter that in a month or so, I will arrive bearing budding gifts.
That is if there’s ever going to be another spring.

St. Peter Rabbit

If you didn’t see the South Park Easter Special, you can watch the best part of it here.

all you need to know about life
you learned from the Easter Bunny

carrot_2.pngDon’t put all of your eggs in one basket.
carrot_2.pngWalk softly and carry a big carrot .
carrot_2.pngEveryone needs a friend who is all ears.
carrot_2.pngAll work and no play can make you a basket case.
carrot_2.pngA cute little tail attracts a lot of attention.
carrot_2.pngEveryone is entitled to a bad hare day.
carrot_2.pngLet happy thoughts multiply like rabbits.
carrot_2.pngSome body parts should be floppy.
carrot_2.pngKeep your paws off other people’s jellybeans.
carrot_2.pngGood things come in small sugarcoated packages.
carrot_2.pngThe grass is always greener in someone else’s basket.
carrot_2.pngAn Easter bonnet can tame even the wildest hare.
carrot_2.pngTo show your true colors you have to come out of your shell.
carrot_2.pngThe best things in life are still sweet and gooey.

HAPPY
EOSTRE

it’s a weird, weird, weird, weird, weird,
weird world.

Word for word from Harper’s Weekly. To read all of the words and get the citations, go here.

Michael Jackson was planning to create a fifty-foot-tall robotic replica of himself that would roam the Las Vegas desert while firing laser beams.

In Spearsville, Louisiana, two fifth-graders had sex on a classroom floor during an assembly about murder.

In the Indian state of Gujarat, an unemployed man from Tooting, England, had found new work as Bahucharaji, the patron goddess of eunuchs.

At the Gaza–Egypt border a woman with three baby crocodiles strapped to her waist was detained after guards noticed that she looked “strangely fat.”

At least four Palestinians in Gaza were killed by what authorities called a “sewage tsunami.”

Members of a Michigan college fraternity called the police after a woman disrobed and started masturbating in their living room and refused to leave; the fraternity now plans to throw away two sofas.

A 15,000-mile-wide hexagon was seen on Saturn.

A Nepalese teenager believed to be a reincarnation of the Buddha began a three-year meditation in a concrete bunker.

dirty is good

At least that’s what a new research report says, according to here:

Victims of depression could benefit from a down-to-earth approach … getting dirty.

Apparently the ‘friendly’ bacteria in soil can be as uplifting as anti-depressant drugs. Mice treated with the bacteria appeared more relaxed. It stimulated the immune system and activated brain neurons producing the mood-enhancing chemical seratonin, a study has shown.

One expert said research involving mycobacterium vaccae ‘leaves us wondering if we shouldn’t all spend more time playing in the dirt’.

No wonder kids love playing in the dirt. No wonder I love to mix potting soil and plant seeds.
This time of year you can start to smell the dirt. Spring mudluscious dirt.
This poem, by Marge Piercy

The Common Living Dirt
Marge Piercy

The small ears prick on the bushes,
furry buds, shoots tender and pale.
The swamp maples blow scarlet.
Color teases the corner of the eye,
delicate gold, chartreuse, crimson,
mauve speckled, just dashed on.

The soil stretches naked. All winter
hidden under the down comforter of snow,
delicious now, rich in the hand
as chocolate cake: the fragrant busy
soil the worm passes through her gut
and the beetle swims in like a lake.

As I kneel to put the seeds in,
careful as stitching, I am in love.
You are the bed we all sleep on.
You are the food we eat, the food
we are, the food we will become.
We are walking trees rooted in you.

You can live thousands of years
undressing in the spring your black
body, your red body, your brown body
penetrated by the rain. Here
is the goddess unveiled,
the earth opening her strong thighs.

Yet you grow exhausted with bearing
too much, too soon, too often, just
as a woman wears through like an old rug.
We have contempt for what we spring
from. Dirt, we say, you’re dirt
as if we were not all your children.

We have lost the simplest gratitude.
We lack the knowledge we sowed ten
thousand years past, that you live
a goddess but mortal, that what we take
must be returned; that the poison we drop
in you will stunt our children’s growth.

Tending a plot of your flesh binds
me as nothing ever could to the seasons,
to the will of the plants, clamorous
in their green tenderness. What
calls louder than the cry of a field
of corn ready, or trees of ripe peaches?

I worship on my knees, laying
the seeds in you, that worship rooted
in need, in hunger, in kinship,
flesh of the planet with my own flesh,
a ritual of compost, a litany of manure.
My garden’s a chapel, but a meadow

gone wild in grass and flower
is a cathedral. How you seethe
with little quick ones, vole, field
mouse, shrew and mole in their thousands,
rabbit and woodchuck. In you rest
the jewels of the genes wrapped in seed.

Power warps because it involves joy
in domination; also because it means
forgetting how we too starve, break,
like a corn stalk in the wind, how we
die like the spinach of drought,
how what slays the vole slays us.

Because you can die of overwork, because
you can die of the fire that melts
rock, because you can die of the poison
that kills the beetle and the slug,
we must come again to worship you
on our knees, the common living dirt.

seeding is believing

I know it’s early in the season, but there’s something in me that needs to plant seeds. Seeds mean hope — hope for beauty, hope for nourishment, hope for miracles.
During the winter, I ordered dozens of packages of seeds — flowers I’ve never seen before, Monkey Flowers, Balloon Flowers, also Chinese Lanterns, exotic lilies….– and tomatoes and herbs and yellow cauliflower and…
Three days ago, I stayed up late and mixed the seed-starter soil. Over the past two days I spent my mother’s nap times planting the seeds in little peat pots. Tonight, they are all warm and moist in the grow-lit confines of a portable greenhouse that I have wedged in a space near my bathroom — the only space available.
I harvested hundreds of marigold seeds and dozens of decorative hot pepper seeds from last year’s plants. When it’s warmer, I wiil plant them in pots that can sit indoors under the windows until outdoor planting time.
Today, I noticed that the squirrels had again chewed off the buds from the newly sprouted daffodils. I dumped a whole bottle of cayenne pepper over the ones that had survived. Supposedly squirrels don’t like hot peppers. Mixing them in the bird food didn’t stop them from getting into the feeders, however.
I did buy packs of coyote urine to keep the deer away. I put one by the budding flowers, but somehow I don’t think squirrels are afraid of coyotes.
My tiny lilac bushes that I planted last year have buds. Little miracles.
Every time I look at my grandson, I am struck by that miracle. That little seed that is now growing like a weed.
Oh, I don’t believe in miracles in the religious sense. Nature is the miracle.
Of course, now there’s the nun who says that the previous Pope should be canonized a saint because praying to him cured her of Parkinson’s disease. Her story is compelling. Nature works in mysterious ways.
Seeds. Seeds of thought. Seeds of hope. Seeds of belief.
So much depends upon seeds.

Attitude is Everything

There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on head. Well,” she said, “I think I’ll braid my hair today?”

So she did.

And she had a wonderful day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head

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“H-M-M,” she said, “I think I’ll part my hair down the middle today?”

So she did.

And she had a grand day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head.

“Well,” she said, “today I’m going to wear my hair in a pony tail.”

So she did and she had a fun, fun day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn’t a single hair on her head.

“YEA!” she exclaimed, “I don’t have to fix my hair today!”

Thanks to my cousin Irene for sending the above in an email.
I’ve had a terrible attitude about this caregiving stuff lately.
But I did make it to exercise at Curves three times last week.
It’s a start.